Sunday, July 17, 2016

We Should All Be Marthas



We have two interesting Bible stories in today’s readings, both of them juxtaposed. In the first, Abraham spots three angelic visitors in the distance and literally begs them to stop by his house, ordering Sarah, his wife, to make bread, and his servants to kill and cook an animal. Abraham himself waits on the guests.

“Where is Sarah?” the angels ask Abraham as they eat, leading me to assume that Abraham is not a traditional silent waiter but has been talking to his guests.

“In the tent,” Abraham says, confused. Where else would Sarah be?

“Next year we will stop this way again,” the angels tell Abraham. “By then, she will have had a son.”

This, of course, is a notoriously tricky issue, because men have been telling Sarah all of her life that, eventually, she will conceive. But does Sarah see a baby? No. Has Sarah seen these angels of the lord? No. At some point in the coming year, she gives up and tells Abraham just to sleep with her maid already, give her a son by proxy. What happens is that Ishmael is born, from whose line Islam descends. Of course, Sarah is a total brat and sends Hagar and Ishmael away because she has (finally) conceived: Isaac is born, as the angels prophesy, just after Ishmael is born.

What is fascinating about this story, though, is that Abraham and Sarah are rewarded for their work and hospitality. Sarah especially is given a promise from these angels whom she may not have even met. As a reward for her hard work and service, she will have a son, and then everybody will stop judging her already.

Taken with today’s Gospel reading—that of Mary and Martha—this story is an interesting choice. It would appear that humanity is rewarded for cooking and serving those who—to paraphrase Catholic doctrine—“come in the name of the Lord.” Yet Jesus seems to say the opposite to Mary and Martha.

The story begins with Jesus visiting some of his best friends, Mary, Martha, and Lazarus, who appear quite often in the gospels. Of course, where Jesus goes, his twelve besties come along, and then that one girlfriend of Mary’s who has a crush on Andrew, and then maybe Peter’s wife or mother-in-law show up because dude, Peter, you have responsibilities, why are you following this guy around Galilee? Then that one guy Jesus healed last summer comes around to remind Jesus how grateful he is, and suddenly instead of an intimate get together of fourteen besties, Martha has a rave on her hands.

Now, women rarely get to party. My aunt hosted a retirement party for her husband yesterday, and she’s having a Baptism party today for her most recent granddaughter, and let me tell you: It is all work and no play for my aunt. Yesterday I watched her get out the kid’s toys and put them in the backyard so the wee ones would stop pestering so-and-so, and then check on the grill, and then run into the house and make sure the food inside wasn’t getting cold, and then greet the latest person to arrive, and then console the oldest grandchild because he had become convinced that a cop who dropped by had come to take him to jail. Today she called me up and then she apologized for not spending more time with me, and I was dumbfounded: Who on Earth apologizes for not spending enough time with the niece who lives ten minutes away because there were thirty other people (many of whom live several hours away) to entertain and feed? My aunt, apparently.

The same would have been true for Martha and Mary. They would have had to wash the disciples’ feet, which would have been dusty and muddy from their travels. John, the youngest apostle, would have complained of thirst and hunger, and so Martha would have had bread in the oven and some hamburgers on the grill. And then one of the wee ones that Jesus loved so much (possibly one of Peter’s neglected daughters) would have had to go to the bathroom, and she wouldn’t know where it was, so Martha would have had to leave everything and show her. Then Matthew would have asked something about income, and Thomas, the most annoying disciple, would have said something to Lazarus and picked a fight, and Philip, the stupidest, would have knocked over one of the casks of wine Martha had been saving especially for a prized Jesus visit.

Sometime during all of this, Mary ends up sitting at the feet of Jesus, listening to him teach.

There is nothing more on this planet that Martha wants except to sit at the feet of Jesus and have the noise stop. But all of her life she has been taught to be silent, to serve, not to complain, not to draw attention to herself. This is a woman of great faith. When her brother Lazarus dies later in the Gospels, Martha runs out to meet Jesus on the road when she hears he is coming and she cries to him, “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.”

At that moment, Martha is acknowledging that Jesus is God. He can raise people from the dead, or save them from death. This is faith, and Martha has it in abundance.

 But in this story, she goes to Jesus and says, “Lord, you see what I am dealing with. I need help. I need Mary’s help.”

But Jesus says, “Martha, wonderful, patient, Martha, you don’t need Mary’s help. You need mine.”

This is a revolutionary moment. Jesus is telling Martha to ignore the tumult of her household, to go against her training from girlhood, her own instincts, and to sit at the feet of Jesus. Jesus is inviting Martha and Mary to follow him, to learn from him, to become enlightened. Just because they are women they need not sit with Sarah in a tent far away from the angelic guests. They have a front-row seat to divinity, and Jesus wants them at his right hand.

Jesus wanted women in his ministry. He wanted them to listen to his words. Jesus never saw any woman as secondary, as a background, as a work animal whose salvation was conditional on her husband’s. When he died, three woman and John were at the foot of his cross. Jesus knew all along that Martha would be there at the foot of his cross. And he wanted her to know that he saw her, saw all that she was doing for him, saw all that she feared and worried about and wanted—and her place was not in the kitchen but sitting beside him.

I will end this week’s lay homily with a few lines from poem I have always loved by Franz Wright, “The Raising of Lazarus:”

here was Martha…
…He knew
she would not stray,
as he knew which would;
he knew that he would always find her
at his right hand,
and beside her
her sister Mary, the one
a whole world of whores
still stood in a vast circle pointing at. Yes,
all were gathered around him. And once again
he began to explain…

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